Saturday, February 5, 2011
3 Steps to No Regrets
Truth is, it can be hard to overcome your past. It's simple to think back on it and have many regrets, but it does not have to be that way. Follow these easy steps:
1. "Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment." (Buddha). I can't simply tell you to forget the past- because that's worthless. You need to know HOW to forget the past, and that answer lies in the quote above- concentrate on the present. The more you surround yourself with ideas of the present, the easier it will be to forget the past.
2. Once you start a new slate of life and forget the past, you must learn how to learn from your mistakes. I know, it sounds redundant- but it's true. You have to learn how to learn from your mistakes. I honestly believe mistakes are an essential part of life. You cannot learn as much from your perfections as you can learn from your mistakes. Now, this doesn't mean you should go out and make all the mistakes you can- it means you should be able to recognize your mistakes. Thats the first step in learning how to learn from your mistakes.
Once you recognize these mistakes, you should be able to understand your original intention and how the outcome happened the way it did. Many people get to this step, and begin to regret again. But this is wrong- learning from your mistakes shouldn't make you regret you made them, rather, they should make you happy you learned from then. After all, mistakes are a crucial aspect to lifelong success.
3. Do things that will make you feel good about yourself. Build your self-confidence. In order to not let your regret tear you apart, you should avoid regretting at all- and that's through confidence. Once you boost your confidence, even a big regret such as saying something you didn't mean to, will not be able to take you down. This is because you'll learn from the mistake, not regret it.
Enjoy and exercise your optimism.
-That's the TFAT